In my everyday life, i work doing different kinds of jobs, some that i love and enjoy. and some that are rewarding in other ways. i am open, caring, devoted, passionate and loyal, i can be very intense at times. i enjoy reading, working out, cooking, music and movies. (you know, all the "normal" everyday stuff). i started exploring my submissive side when I was very young and got involved in the lifestyle during my early adulthood. After a life changing experience i spent over a decade in the periphery - not quite being part of anything, but knowing it was still part of me. Now i am slowly trying to get back into it. i have had some experience with BDSM, D/s etc and I am looking to gain knowledge and experience new things. Also, i hate talking about myself. =)
When people first meet me, their first impression is usually that i am shy, intelligent and very reserved (which i am, if i don't know you well). and am a bit of an introvert as well, but there is a lot of intensity lurking beneath the surface as well, longing for release, for the man who is able to get into my head (and my heart). It just takes me a while to open up to people, but i believe the man who is able to do this will find it worth the wait.
i am not interested in those that are just looking for an easy lay or casual play. If that's your thing, i am sure you will find someone here here who is into that, it's just not me. i am selective. You must earn my trust and respect before i can be as vulnerable as i want and need to be. It does not work for me with a stranger or with someone that i do not know, trust, like and/or care about, etc. (i know there are those that find being with a complete stranger a turn on, i don't judge, that just is not me.)
i guess what i am saying is that what i want is not that different from a vanilla relationship. i want someone that i can go places with and do stuff with, hang out with, and laugh with. Someone that i can be comfortable with. But I also want them to tie me up, and use me. Someone that i can explore different aspects of the lifestyle stuff with in a loving, trusting safe environment where we can also laugh and have fun with it.
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My Ideal Person:
i am looking for someone that i can trust not only my body to but also my mind; someone who can get me out of my own head when i need that. Who will push my boundaries but still makes me feel safe. Chemistry, honesty and your reassurance are important to me. i need to be an active participant so we both get as much out of the experience as possible. Honesty, communication, integrity, and a sense of humor is very important to me.
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